We don’t talk about loss much in our society. People die, really sad things happen, people send flowers (that if you are like me, you forget to send thank you cards for) and a month or two later, you are going on about your life attempting to operate as if nothing happened. But losing people leaves holes in our lives. Holes that we can’t possibly figure out how to survive within a few weeks, or in some cases even years. Well-meaning friends will tell you their advice on how to move on or move …